The Most Common Sexual Fantasies And What They Mean

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All right, welcome back to the Love Lab podcast. This is episode 285. And it is titled The most common sexual fantasies and what they mean, I had this idea to do the show on common sexual fantasies. And I thought I swear that Céline And I already did this topic. So I went back and looked through the show notes for the previous 284 episodes and realized we have not done a podcast on this. So I’m kind of excited to do this topic. I believe we did a shortened version on YouTube on this subject, but we’ve never really dived into it as deeply as I’m going to today. So I have 10 Common fantasies, we’re going to talk about what they are, I’m going to give you some percentages for how many people sometimes in general, sometimes men and women, percentages of how frequent they are. And I’m also going to offer you some of the expert’s opinions on what they mean as well as some of my own opinions of what those sexual fantasies mean. So it’s going to be a fun show. Today we’re going to get to talk about fantasies and have a little fun with it.

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Okay, before we get into the fantasies themselves, I want to read you a quote from David Levy. He’s a PhD, clinical psychologist, and marriage and family therapist. The quote is: “Fantasies permit us to engage in imaginary scenarios without real-world complications, like jealousy, hurt feelings, offending others, or even risking arrest.” Why did I want to start with that before getting into the fantasies? Because I wanted to make the point that just because people have fantasies about certain things, doesn’t mean they actually want those things to happen in real life. Especially when it comes to the fantasies that women have when we talk about what some of those common ones are. It definitely does not mean that they want this to happen in real life. So it’s a way for us to engage in imaginary scenarios without real-world complications. So that is important to understand. Because too often, you know, when a woman shares a fantasy a man hears that goes, Oh, yeah, okay, I can make that happen. And it’s like, whoa, doesn’t necessarily mean that she wants you to make that happen. There might be something else similar or related to that, that she would like to happen, but not necessarily that exact thing. So I think that’s a really important point to make from the start.

Okay, so let’s get into some of the stats now. And I’m going to read you something that’s kind of a little bit generic in general when it comes to fantasy. Just to give you an idea of some commonalities there. Then we’re going to go into the actual fantasies themselves and talk about each one. So in 2014, there was a study called the Wilson sex fantasy questionnaire. And that was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. The questionnaire was aimed at trying to discover what percentage of people have rare or unusual fantasies compared to those who have what are generally considered to be common fantasies. So according to the findings of that study, only 2.3% and 15.9% of participants had fantasies that are considered rare or unusual, respectively. So in other words, most of the fantasies you’re having are most likely totally normal. And then it also found that more than 50% of people have common sexual fantasies and more than 84% have typical sexual fantasies. Why is that important to talk about, or to mention? Well, because a lot of people have sexual fantasies that they’re ashamed of, or they think are really weird, or like, I must be the only one who, you know fantasizes about that. And the reality is, that’s not true. So 50% of people have the same common sexual fantasies, and 84% of people have typical sexual fantasies. So, you know, things that pretty much everybody has. And it’s really only the 2.3% that have rare fantasies and 15.9% that have unusual, so most likely, whatever it is, that you’re fantasizing about, is probably pretty normal, and lots of other people are fantasizing about it. So that I think is important to keep in mind.

There are so many things in life, that we think we’re the only one who thinks that or does that or wants that or likes that. And the reality is, that’s rarely true. Usually, the things that we like or want or fantasize about are relatively common. We just don’t know that because there are topics like sex and sexual fantasies that we don’t talk about in society. And because we don’t talk about them, people think they’re on an island all by themselves with some sort of weird fantasy when the reality is, that they’re probably on a continent full of other people having the same fantasies. So I think that’s important to know. Because it’s sometimes I think people feel shame around the fantasies that they have and the things that they want. So, yeah, I think that’s important to understand. So okay. Having said that, let’s get into the fantasies number one and I had to put this number one on the list.

I’m calling it multi-partner sex, which can include threesomes, foursomes, orgies, group sex, gang bags, and pretty much everything in between. What did I put that first on the list? Well, because it is absolutely in my opinion has always been the most common sexual fantasy for men. And it is 95% of men fantasize about multi-partner sex 95% That is a huge percentage. So my observation having done this work for a long time, and being a man was correct, it is a large percentage of men. Now I personally would have said that it was a significantly lower percentage for women. However, having consulted with a woman who was my muse for this episode, she was like, giving me the stink eye like, really? No, we fantasize about it all the time. When doing research, I actually confirmed that she indeed was correct. 87% of women fantasize about threesomes, orgies, group sex, and even gang bags. Yep. 87% 57% of women fantasize about being with more than three people at a time. Think about that. So all of you guys who are fantasizing about having two women as like your most common dreams Did you know your women were fantasizing about having more than three people at a time? 57%. That’s more than half and 87% of them are fantasizing about threesomes, orgies, group sex, or even potentially gang bangs. Did you know you’re almost fantasizing about being in a gang bang? You probably didn’t. So much, much higher numbers on the female side than even I would have expected. But what exactly does that mean? Does that mean that all your women want to be fucked by multiple men? Not necessarily.

So there are a couple of different things that this particular fantasy can mean. So for men, it can potentially mean that it has to do with their ego. I’m such a great lover, and I’m so great in bed that I can please multiple women. That is one possibility. The other of course, and this is true for both men and women, is just having more lips, hands, whatever, on various parts of your body at the same time, something that one person no matter how good they are in the bedroom simply can’t do by themselves, because they’ve only got two hands and one mouth and one set of genitals, right. So that’s a possibility. One for women is potentially, I know, guys, you’re not going to want to hear this, I’m probably going to have to drop a truth bomb on this one. But many of the women out there are not sexually satisfied by their partner. So the fantasy of having multiple partners is like, well, if one guy can’t last long enough to take me to that really, really huge, deep cervical orgasm, maybe two, or three can write if they tagged him out, okay, tag you’re in.

So sometimes it can really be about that about being able to get the level of pleasure that they’ve always been looking for and haven’t been able to find with a single partner. So dropping the truth bomb on that one, sorry, guys, but a lot of you are not good enough to be able to really give them the pleasure they’re looking for. And therefore they will fantasize about being with more than one man. By the way, if that happens to be the case, for your partner, please, please go check out powerandmastery.com. Because that’s where you can learn how to be a sexual master and take her to those places on your own. That doesn’t guarantee she’s not going to want sex with more than one person, because she probably still will, but she’ll probably want it a lot less.

Another potential reason for this fantasy is just that it’s taboo. It’s something that you’re told you’re not supposed to want or do. And so that can also be a motivating factor. The Muse who was helping me prepare for this show, you know, her, her basic take on it was, hey, you know, sometimes you just want more than one mouth on various parts of your body or more than one anything. And, you know, if you’re listening, you might be thinking, Oh, now we know what kind of woman she is. No, no, she’s not at all. And that’s exactly the point is, this is not somebody you know, who would necessarily be at a gangbang or something like that, but yet the fantasy, the idea of it is still there. So multi-partner sex, I had to put that at the top of the list because it is such a common sexual fantasy for both men and women.

And you know, the last thing I’ll say about this is so many men fantasize about, you know, let’s just say the threesome having two women. The reality is, is most men can’t handle one woman. How in the world are they going to handle more than one? Now, if you’re a man, and you’re thinking, Well, I don’t really care about her pleasure or their pleasure, it’s just about what you are receiving. Okay? That kind of makes more sense. But most men really struggle to adequately satisfy one woman. So having more than one’s probably not going to work out the way that you think it will. And the other thing is, is that a lot of men, you know, they are pitching their woman to have a threesome, but it never really occurs to them in their mind that if she says yes, her idea of yes might be to men and her. And that’s a possibility that a lot of men don’t think of and I have this conversation with men all the time. You know, whether they be clients, friends, whatever, and they’re like, Yeah, threesome, threesome, and I’m like, Well, are you prepared for the possibility that threesome could be you another man and her and they’re like, wait, what? Wait, what? Then they’re like cricket crickets as they give you the deer-in-headlights look, right?

So that’s something that a lot of men don’t really think about when it comes to threesomes. So I have seen a fair number of women who were reluctant to go into the threesome or multi-partner route and then when they do they end up actually enjoying it a whole lot more than the guys do. So guys think about that before you start, you know, pressuring your woman to go there, you might realize that she finally is in a place where she’s really getting satisfied the way she really wants to and finally feels uninhibited, and it’s just going off, and you’re not getting nearly as much attention or satisfaction as you thought you would.

Alright, let’s see. Next, is voyeurism or exhibition? So this one, you know, I want to say that when it comes to the stats, not there are there isn’t like one main study that tells you everything. And it’s this breakdown of men and this breakdown of women and this breakdown, and, you know, some of the information I could find, only gave results for men or only gave results for women or only gave general results. And so they might be a little bit all over the place. And that’s because there hasn’t been one really good, you know, source for this kind of data. But for voyeurism and or exhibitionism. The stats that I did find said 54% of men fantasize about that. So obviously, voyeurism, watching other people have sex and exhibitionism is having sex while other people watch you. So sort of two sides of the same coin in a sense that I’m lumping them together here right now because there are similar reasons for that common fantasy. And it often revolves around this idea of freedom. Especially when it comes to the sort of exhibitionism, just being able to totally do something that in normal society isn’t allowed. There can also be motivations around arousal. So watching other people have sex is generally very arousing to people. And it can also for some people be very arousing for other people to watch them have sex.

And you know, if you’ve listened to this show for any amount of time, you’ve I’m sure you’ve heard me and Céline as well talk about our experiences. sex parties, I did an entire episode on sex party fails. So like, it’s not new information that, you know, I’ve been around the block a few times when it comes to those sorts of events. And I can say that it is actually arousing to watch and also be watched. And I can also say that there is definitely a feeling of freedom when you see an entire group of people totally sexually free and liberated. It’s a pretty amazing thing. So, yeah, voyeurism and exhibitionism, that is two, and now that’s only number two. We’re just lumping those in together.

Next is being dominated Oh, and this one. So being dominated kind of encapsulates a bunch of different things. So when you’re researching this one, you’ll see it labeled as BDSM, you’ll see it labeled as dominations, you’ll see it labeled as submission. There’s, there’s a bunch of different ways that this particular fantasy, often is described. But we’re going to title it being dominated, and 65% of women have fantasies about being dominated in one way or another. That’s a pretty high percentage. And there are a couple of things that I want to say about that. Let’s first go into what are some of the reasons number one, submission. So being dominated is sort of an ultimate form of submission, which kind of leads me to one of the things that I wanted to share about this particular dream. So for women, if you think about not just the way their genitals are formed, but also energetically, you know, who they are and how they participate in the sexual act, they receive, they receive a man’s penis, they receive His ejaculation if they so choose, they receive His penetrating energy for physically, they even have to spread their legs wide open in a very vulnerable position.

So for women, the act of sex is very vulnerable, and it requires them to be really open. And it really does require them to be submissive in a way, but that doesn’t mean all the other connotations of the word submissive, I’m not going into how they show up and their relationship dynamic or anything like that I’m just talking about, you know, the act of having to be spread wide open and really receive. And that is, in my opinion, and in many women’s opinion a really beautiful expression of the feminine. And so being dominated really allows women to sink into that, to really let go and be in that feminine receiving place, which was the second point here, which is, it allows them to completely let go and surrender. A couple other other interesting things that you may not have thought about when it comes to being dominated as a fantasy, it also gives them permission to be wild, or in other words, permission to do things that they wouldn’t necessarily do. In other words, they’re not holding back there may be potential sex acts or ways of being that they would be afraid to ask for or to want.

But if in the dynamic of being dominated, the man actually is sort of dominating for lack of a better word, I don’t want to use some other words, because I don’t want to confuse people and get them all riled up. Words are very important. But it may allow them to just let go and say, Oh, well, it was okay. Because, you know, so, and then remember, we’re talking about fantasy here, we’re not necessarily talking about the actual act, it’s just the fantasy that is occurring, it gives them permission to be wild, allows them to not hold back. There’s also an element of power dynamics, in the being dominated fantasy. And power dynamics are not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, this is one of the things that I see as a positive to the BDSM scene. And again, if you’ve listened to the show, for any amount of time, you know, I’m not super pro-BDSM, I’m not against BDSM. I think that if used in the proper way, it can be beneficial. I do see areas where it gets out of hand. But if used the correct way, it can be beneficial.

And I think one of the ways that it can be beneficial is it allows couples to explore the power dynamics. So they can see what it’s like to be on one side or the other. And that gives them an opportunity to maybe try on some dynamics that they were maybe afraid to try on in real life. So that can be another reason for having that being dominated type of fantasy. So again, I’m gonna say this another time, even though I’ve said several times already on this show, just because she’s having a dream or a fantasy about being dominated doesn’t necessarily mean she wants to be dominated in the actual bedroom. And even if she does what she may, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she wants to be dominated the same way that she did, or was in the fantasy. So how do you know what the difference is? Have a conversation, we talk every single time on this show about communication, the importance of it, and how to do it, and this is one of those areas where you need to communicate. Okay, first of all, you need to have a relationship where it’s okay for you to share fantasies with each other openly without judgment, and then to really talk about okay, well, what does that fantasy mean for you?

What if any part of that, would you want to try on in real life outside of the fantasy and work together to figure out what that is? Alright, so that was being dominated. 65% of women. The next one on the list is very similar to that, and that is the rape fantasy. I’m not going to spend a lot of time talking about that, because, in my opinion, the reason why many women do fantasize about being raped is everything we just talked about with being dominated. So it’s a scenario that plays out in fantasy really because of the desire for being dominated, which is all the things that we just talked about, that does not mean in any way that she actually wants to be raped. Now want to make that point really, really clear. It is a common fantasy not because they actually want it, it has more to do with the being dominated the submission, the surrender, that sort of thing. Yeah, so that’s, that’s all I really need to say about that one. Just refer back to being dominated to understand why women may or may not fantasize about that.

Which then leads me to having sex with another woman. And this one is interesting because this one was really specific to women. So it’s women having sex with another woman 59% of women fantasize about having sex with another woman? Does that mean that they’re all bisexual or gay? No, it absolutely does not mean that there are a couple of potential reasons why women fantasize about having sex with another woman. Obviously, it can be something that they have always wanted to do, but have either never had the opportunity to or were afraid to, or they’re afraid of being accused of, you know, being gay or something like that. So there might be a fantasy there about what would it be like, but I don’t, I’ve been afraid to try it in real life. That’s a possibility. Some of the others from experts were things like when two women have sex, a lot of the sexual stimulation is on the clitoris, because that’s the external part. And so experts believe that having a fantasy about having sex with another woman can sometimes be about receiving clitoral stimulation. So, you know, a way of doing that is a possibility.

I like the idea that you know, it potentially has to do with receiving pleasure from somebody who knows what they like. So a woman knows, the idea of a woman knowing how to pleasure a woman, a man should know how to pleasure a woman too. But having said that, there are a lot of them that really don’t. So that’s a possibility. So having sex with another woman 59% of women have that fantasy, which might have to do with receiving pleasure from someone who knows what they like, and or a fantasy revolving around some form of clitoral stimulation. You know, and there can be other reasons, too. You know, women generally, like other women, and like, you know, you’ll see when women will go to the bathroom together, women will get changed together, women will try and close together, women will check out each other’s boobs, like women just like doing those sorts of things with other women. So naturally, there could be some attraction there.

Generally, that tends to be different for men, not always, but in general, I would say that that’s true, we don’t generally do those things. So it’s different in which would explain why I didn’t find any stats for men. fantasizing about having sex with other men. I’m sure they’re out there. But I read a dozen articles from all different sources to pull all these stats together, and I didn’t actually find that anywhere. There were some generalized stats about fantasizing about homosexual encounters. But those numbers were really low, like single digit or like low two digit numbers. And so the title of this show was most common, and because the stats were so low on those things, obviously, they didn’t make the most common list. That’s not to say they don’t happen. They’re just not the most common. Okay, so there you go. That’s the first five of 10 Common fantasies and what they possibly mean. Let me know in the comments, have you had those types of fantasies? And if so, have you thought about what they mean to you? I would love to hear that.

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All right. Let’s dive back into the fantasies. Next one on the list. Having sex in public. This one kind of surprised me a little bit about how high the percentages were 81% of men and 57% of women apparently fantasize about having sex in public. So what are some of the reasons for that? Well, one is arousal. Again, this is similar to exhibitionism voyeurism we talked about liberation, it’s very liberating to be that exposed. Empowerment, it’s also empowering to be able to allow yourself to be that vulnerable. The reality is, is that sex is vulnerable for both people involved, you’re naked, you’re in a position where you can’t really do much else, and you are sharing parts of yourself and maybe sounds and things that maybe you’re not super comfortable with people really seeing.

So the idea around having a fantasy that you’re having sex in public can potentially be about all of those things about feeling empowered about feeling liberated, about feeling aroused by that sort of thing. So those are some potential reasons. I like I said, I was somewhat surprised by the fact that it was that high. And I don’t know, they didn’t really clarify from what I read what public meant, right? Because, uh, you know, maybe a sex club could be considered public, for sure. That’s a place where there are lots of people, random strangers, you don’t know. But sex in public could also be, you know, on a beach somewhere, or, you know, somewhere else. That’s, that’s pretty public. And I would think that those would like, if you broke it down by that, like, where that might have a bit of an impact on the stats. But yeah, anyway, in either case, I found that somewhat surprising.

Alright, next fantasy sex with a stranger. So 50% of people have a fantasy about sex with a stranger. That’s relatively common. So what are some of the reasons why people might be fantasizing about sex with a stranger? Well, it could be because sex with a stranger means you are avoiding issues of attachment, intimacy, and jealousy. So the idea that some of the more difficult things that come up, when you have close, deeply connected relationships that involve, you know, a sexual component, aren’t there. And so for some people, the idea of just something that’s just purely for pleasure with no attachment, no processing afterward, is potentially appealing and could also mean that you’re free of pressure or duty or responsibility. So again, there there there are responsibilities that come with being intimate with somebody. But if it’s a stranger, and likely one, you will never see again, those pressures, duties, and responsibilities may not be there. Another possible reason for fantasizing about sex with a stranger is that you would be able to do things that you would be afraid to ask your partner for A lot of times people have, you know, fantasies or desires really about a type of sexual act or something that they like. But they’re afraid to ask their partner for it because their partner might think it’s gross, or it’s weird, or have judgment around it. And so the idea of a fantasy of sexual the stranger is, well, you can ask for those things because you don’t care what the stranger thinks. You don’t care if they have judgment about it. So that’s another possible reason for having the fantasy of sex with a stranger. For some people also, you know, it’s just exciting. It’s like, yeah, in adventure, so to speak. So there can be a lot of reasons for fantasizing about sex with a stranger.

The next one, making love in a romantic location. 85% of people fantasize about making love in a romantic location. And what’s interesting about that is, it really is both men and women. And men obviously get the rap about, you know, not necessarily being so romantic. And you might have a tendency to think that this is mostly women. But it’s not mostly women. It was actually both men and women. The key to this one is the location. So what does the location potentially mean? So just for one example, if the location was, you know, making love on a desert island, that potentially means that you want to be away from the day-to-day responsibilities that you wouldn’t be able to actually be totally present for the love-making experience. If you were on a desert island, and there were no distractions. So when we say romantic location, you know, it might be because the person is craving romance. But it might be that the location itself actually indicates what it is that fantasy is fulfilling for you. It could be adventure, it could be like we said, lack of responsibilities, the ability to have no distractions, and really focus. So if you have a fantasy about making love in a romantic location, think about that location, what does that really mean? What is it that you’re really seeking out of that fantasy?

Alright, next, sex with your own partner. Fists did not surprise me at all, maybe it will surprise some of you 91% of men and 81% of women fantasize about sex with their own partner, I think this is fantastic. The reason is, if you’re really in a healthy relationship, where you have both a healthy, you know, relationship and a healthy sex life, because there are people that have wonderful, amazing loving relationships, but their sex life really isn’t very good. You have people that have great sex but don’t have a very good relationship. But if you’re in a really healthy loving relationship, that also has a very healthy, loving, and fun sexual component to that relationship, I really think you should be fantasizing about your partner.

In other words, if you’re in that kind of relationship, there shouldn’t be attraction to your partner. And so when you get turned on, you should be thinking about your partner. I know for me, that’s definitely the case,, all the times in my life when I’ve been with a partner that I’m attracted to, I definitely have dreams, or sexual dreams or fantasies about that person. And I’ve always considered that a good sign. That means that I’m attracted to my partner that I’m desiring them that I’m wanting them. And the thing is, is, you know, let’s say it’s a dream, as opposed to just a fantasy that you’re thinking about while you’re awake and your conscious mind. You don’t really get to choose in your dreams necessarily unless you’ve mastered lucid dreaming, and you can control your dreams, which most people can’t, but for the most part, the symbols and the people just show up. And so you know, when I’m having dreams about, you know, having sex in the person in that dream happens to be my partner. I always kind of smile and I’m like, Yeah, that’s a good sign. So it really didn’t surprise me at all that most people dream about that. I mean, this is the person that you have sex with, most often, probably exclusively. And so when you are fantasizing about sex or sex act, it’s not unusual to fantasize about doing that with your partner.

All right, and the last one for this episode is taboo activities. 72% of women and 87% of men want to indulge in what’s considered culturally forbidden. Big numbers on that 170 2% of women and 87% of men want to engage in culturally forbidden activity. So what are some of those culturally forbidden activities that we’re talking about? Could be anal sex, oral sex, sex with a professor sex with someone younger sex with someone older. exhibitionism voyeurism, you get the idea, right? They don’t necessarily have to be anything all that out there, so to speak, like for instance, oral sex. I personally would not consider oral sex to be a taboo activity, but some people may. Annual sex obviously has been a taboo activity culturally for a long time. You know, having sex with somebody considerably younger or older have also been considered taboo as has exhibitionism and voyeurism.

So, you know, those things aren’t necessarily surprising to see on the list. So you know, what exactly does that mean? Well, it doesn’t necessarily mean you want those things, just like the other fantasies didn’t necessarily mean that you wanted those things, either. But it might mean what those things represent to you. And so, you know, this is kind of like we were saying, with the making love in a romantic location, that the location itself had to do a lot with what the meaning of that fantasy was. The same thing goes here, too, you have to look at the actual activity, and what does that activity mean to you? And then you’ll, you’ll get a much closer idea of, you know, what that fantasy potentially means. And it could just mean, you know, stepping outside of your box, you know, taking a risk doing something that you wouldn’t normally do. Yeah. I mean, you know, when it comes to things like exhibitionism voyeurism, we talked about those earlier on in the show about what those means. So those are already some potential meanings for wanting to do those things. But in general, I would say if you’re having a fantasy about a taboo activity, which could be you know, these or I’m sure, there are plenty more taboo activities that you could come up with, to go on the list.

But, yeah, I would say, look at the particular fantasy, and then think about what that particular fantasy means to you. So there you go, those are 10 of the most common fantasies, those are some ideas as to what they might mean. You know, I would say, don’t overanalyze your fantasies too much. But it is good to think about them and what they might mean and whether or not you actually want these fantasies to occur in real life. Or if maybe you just want something that the fantasy represents, but isn’t actually the fantasy. And I always, always, always encourage couples to really talk about what their fantasies are. And, you know, ways that they may or may not be able to meet those fantasies for each other, you might find that it greatly improves your sex life, you might find that it’s a whole lot of fun and that you’re trying new things that you never thought about before until this came along. So yeah, definitely think about what your sexual fantasies are, share them with your partner, and talk about them.

Céline and I created a while back something called the sexual bucket list, I think, have to double-check this but I think it is in our passion Vault, which is always here at the end of the show. So if you go to Kevin and Céline dot com forward slash vault and give us your email address, which puts you on our email list, you get access to our vault that has a ton of free stuff, all kinds of free things for men, women, and couples. I think this is in there, but we created something called the sexual bucket list. And it is a long PDF, which has all kinds of different you know, sexual acts or activities that you may or may not want to try. And so you’ve obviously heard of the term bucket list before so it’s a bucket list but for sex that can help you figure out what your fantasies are and whether or not you actually want to make any of those happen in real life. So, go check that out if you are so inclined. And yeah, have fun with your fantasies don’t get too attached to them. Use them as a way to enhance your relationship rather than detract from it. Alright, that’s all I have for you this week, and I will see you next week.

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