How To Give A Mind-Blowing Hand Job

Kevin Anthony 0:11
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Céline Remy 0:20
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Kevin Anthony 0:27
Alright, welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 158. And it’s titled How to give mind-blowing hand jobs. Today, we will be talking all things hand jobs, you may not think that there’s that much to talk about with a hand job. Oh, but leave us there is.

Céline Remy 0:51
Get ready, you probably will learn some new things we had to find compiling some data, some tips, some tricks, some do some don’t. Some new ways to go at it, it will be inspiring.

Kevin Anthony 1:05
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Céline Remy 1:13
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Kevin Anthony 1:33
Alright, so first, we thought we would start with you know, why would you want to give a hand job? Because, yeah, there’s probably some people listening and they’re like, isn’t that what you do? And you’re like, 15 years.

Kevin Anthony 1:50
So we kind of wanted to reframe the head job for you first, give you some reasons why it’s a good idea why it’s something that you can add to your toolbox of things to keep your sex life fun and exciting. So we have a list of reasons why you would want to do that.

Céline Remy 2:07
Also want to brief face like why we decided to do a handjob episode because we’ve done a lot of episodes on, we’ve done oral sex going down on a woman fingering and women and, you know, our audience tends to be a little bit more masculine. Like, we’ve got a few more men listening to the love lab podcast.

Céline Remy 2:25
But we thought that women wanted some good things like that because To tell you the truth, hand jobs were very scary to me, I felt like I was much better at blowjobs in that I would be better with my mouth than I was with my hands. And therefore I avoided those like the plague, I would always opt for a blowjob rather than a handjob until I built my confidence.

Kevin Anthony 2:51
Well, that’s a good point, too, right? So you know, there may be women out there who are like, I just I’m not very good at it. I don’t know what to do, I can’t tell if he likes it. So this could be very helpful. This could be helpful for the men to I mean, don’t tune out just because you don’t give hand jobs, you might learn something about how to really receive them as well.

Céline Remy 3:11
Oh, how to do it yourself even better.

Kevin Anthony 3:15
That’s true, these things could apply to a solo practice. Okay, so let’s dive right in with why would you want to give a head job. So number one on the list is you’re not yet ready for sexual intercourse. So that might mean a couple of things. Maybe you’ve never had sex before, but you still want to be able to interact physically with your partner. That’s one possibility.

Kevin Anthony 3:39
Another possibility is maybe this is a new lover that you have, and you want to be able to connect physically and sexually, but you’re not ready yet to have sex. You don’t always have to have sex on the first date or the second date of the third day you can there’s not necessarily anything wrong with that as long as you’ve had all the proper conversations beforehand, which is another topic for another show.

Céline Remy 4:03
It could also be that it’s not a day where you feel like having penetration, you could be in a long-term relationship and you’re like, Hey, I can be open to a hand job. Like I don’t want to have anything else. I don’t want to have sex, like a penis inside the vagina type of sex. So let’s just stick to this practice. Or

Kevin Anthony 4:21
maybe you’re having a particularly heavy flow day on your cycle or, you know, maybe you’ve got an infection that needs to be taken care of while on one side or the other. You know that there are lots of reasons why. Maybe penis and vagina just aren’t going to work at that moment. But there are other things that you can do to connect especially if you’re on date night, right because you’re supposed to have a date night Remember that?

Céline Remy 4:49
seconds to second reason is that you are the location where you can’t have sex, sometimes you just can’t and handjob can be a quick way to kind of be naughty, and it’s exciting. And a lot of people think about it as like less of them. But hand jobs can be a lot of fun.

Kevin Anthony 5:12
Yeah, well, when we get into the dues, you know, like, what how to really do it in tips is like, you know, don’t think of it as, Oh, you’re just grabbing a penis and jerking up and down, like, think of it more as as a loving massage, you know, and there’s, there’s so much more that can be done than just that. So you have to reframe how you think about what a handjob is,

Céline Remy 5:34
after all, a handjob is great foreplay,

Kevin Anthony 5:37
right? That’s number three on the list. It’s great for playing, maybe it’s just something that you want to do prior to sex.

Céline Remy 5:44
See, one of the problems that a lot of men experience as they get older is they require a little bit more intimacy and connection for having a hard-on for feeling in the mood and be interested in having sex with their partner.

Céline Remy 5:58
And sometimes women assume that man should always get ready be hard on a moment’s notice. And while it happens to a lot of guys, sometimes it’s good when going through life, your hormones change, you can be stressed out, I mean, so many things you have can change. Sometimes you need a little hand.

Kevin Anthony 6:15
Pun intended Exactly.

Céline Remy 6:17
And a hands-on can be such a good way to prepare your partner and without any pressure. And I think it’s not used enough.

Kevin Anthony 6:27
Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. Definitely a great foreplay technique, and can definitely help men get where they need to get to, so they can actually have sex. Alright, number four, it’s a way to teach your partner what you like. So this is really important. This is something that you know, it absolutely blows my mind sometimes that two people could be together for such a long period of time and not know what the other one actually likes.

Kevin Anthony 6:55
What kind of grip what kind of touch what kind of stroke, you know, fast, slow, hard, soft, like this. There are so many different things there. And this could be a great way to help your partner understand what it is you actually like,

Céline Remy 7:10
and need. Again, back to if you’re having erection issues, you might need a certain firmness applied at the base of your penis or a certain stroke that will bring more circulation to your penis, then it’s good to teach your partner how to do that.

Kevin Anthony 7:24
Absolutely. Okay, we got two more reasons why you might want to give a handjob number five, there is almost zero risks of STI. So maybe you’ve had the conversation. This is a new lover, you’ve had the conversation, but you haven’t yet had a chance to get tested since your last bunch of lovers, however many. And you’re not ready yet for the intercourse? Well, here’s a way that you can interact until you know that it’s safe to do so.

Céline Remy 7:55
And a big bonus there’s no risk of pregnancy. Yep, unless you really stupid and you have semen all over your hands and then insert your fingers inside your vagina that that would get

Kevin Anthony 8:06
or intentionally ejaculate in the wrong spot.

Céline Remy 8:08
Yes, but you know, there’s no uses error, you know, pregnancy.

Kevin Anthony 8:16
Use properly according to the manual risk of pregnancy. Speaking

Céline Remy 8:21
of manual, we are about to give you the do’s and how to give a great hand job. And then we’ll give you the don’ts. Usually, we tend to leave the best for the end. But I think today’s intention was to really spend a lot of time talking about like, the proper ways to do it.

Céline Remy 8:38
Because I’ve seen too many women I work with couples and some of the sessions are in-person sessions where I will teach them to touch each other. And I will witness people touching each other and each other’s genitals and I’ve been upheld by the ways and women handle their partner’s genitals. I’m like, this thing is breakable. Number one, be aware.

Céline Remy 9:02
And number two, like bring a little heartedness like whatever you doing this is crazy. Like it doesn’t just because he’s a guy doesn’t mean he’s not sensitive or wanting some Delta mass.

Kevin Anthony 9:13
Alright, I gotta tell a funny story. Speaking of it being breakable, so one day, I’m down at the beach with a bunch of friends. And people I’ve known for years. And we see this woman come walking up the beach, who we sort of kind of knew but not really very well.

Kevin Anthony 9:32
And this one friend, we’ll call him Bob, that isn’t really his name, but he has his back to her and he doesn’t know who we’re talking about. And he turns around and he sees and he was like all fit like, I don’t want to see her. And we’re all like Dude, what’s going on here?

Kevin Anthony 9:50
What’s the problem and we kind of had to push him a little bit because she broke my penis To this day, I don’t know exactly what she did to him. But apparently, she somehow hurt him physically on his penis, and he was not happy about it.

Céline Remy 10:08
Well, and for good reason.

Kevin Anthony 10:11
So yes, it is potentially breakable if you don’t know what you’re doing. And if you do things the wrong way,

Céline Remy 10:18
you know, I think it’s important to realize that sometimes we get too much in our heads. For me, that’s what was happening. I felt like because I wasn’t a penis owner. I don’t like practicing years of using my hands-on penises, therefore I hadn’t mastered it. And that’s why was holding me back. So I felt like I was much better with my mom, you know, and that’s really what it was.

Céline Remy 10:43
But you don’t have to know a million things, it really comes down to the energy you put into what you do. So one of the thing and we put it as number 11 because we have 11 dos’s, and I will start with that one, you got to love what you do. And I think it’s an important starting point.

Céline Remy 11:02
Because if you’re going to love what you do, it’s going to be felt through your hands, and the person will respond to the touch much better. If you’re afraid if you are timid If you are unsure, it’s going to be fed and it’s not going to feel as good.

Céline Remy 11:19
Now you can go from being super confident, or like not confident to super confident maybe without having some reassurance or guidance. So it’s okay to talk about this or ask for guidance, like don’t like, pretend that you’re there. But at least love what you do.

Kevin Anthony 11:35
Yeah, absolutely. This is actually one of the things we teach in our sexual mastery course when we start getting into like, how do you really truly become a master lover. And it works both ways. It works for men, and it works for women, you have to love what you’re doing.

Kevin Anthony 11:48
Whether you’re giving oral sex to a woman, or you’re, you know, making love using your penis, or you’re giving a handjob or a blowjob, whatever it is, if you love what you’re doing, you will be better at it. To me, it’s the same thing as when you watch a musician who’s really technically proficient, but they just don’t have the soul the heart, the feel, you know, you’re like, wow, that was really amazing.

Kevin Anthony 12:13
But somehow it just doesn’t move you, right. And then you see a player who doesn’t really have the greatest skills, you know, like he only knows, you know, like, you know, one or two basic things, but he just puts his heart and soul into it, you know? And then you’re like, wow, because it moves you. Right? Same thing here. Just love what you do, and the person will feel it.

Céline Remy 12:36
Then a second do is very the strokes. And you don’t have to know a million strokes. If you have you’re free to five go to that you like and you can vary. That will go a long way.

Kevin Anthony 12:51
Yeah. And I would add to it. Don’t be afraid to experiment if you only got three strokes in your toolbox, invent new stuff. Something doesn’t all the time. Always, hey, check out this new thing. That’s pretty good.

Céline Remy 13:04
You inspired me, what can I say? It’s like, oh, I’ve never done this variation. You know, that’s a cool thing. Right?

Kevin Anthony 13:11
Absolutely. Number two is what you put on the list. Celine. It’s called get rotational. So it’s kind of related to vary the stroke.

Céline Remy 13:19
Yeah, well, when you think about the strokes, we think about the up and down and one direction. But a penis is really fun to play around with and go around the car and around the clock. And so that’s the aspect of being rotational is you don’t have to be just in one direction, you can start to move the penis apps down sideways.

Céline Remy 13:43
Now each penis is a little bit different in how they get when they get hard and their flexibility. So again, don’t just say, Oh, they said on the love lab that we could go and pull it to the right. You know, like if it feels like it’s not going don’t force it. But you can be slightly tilted to one side or the other side.

Céline Remy 14:03
What’s cool too is when you do that, you can stroke different areas of the penis that you don’t always get if you just stay in the one direction that you usually do. So it just gives new sensations.

Kevin Anthony 14:16
Mm-hmm. All right, number three, and this is an important one. Don’t forget the balls. We call it a hand job but we don’t necessarily mean you’re limited to the penis.

Céline Remy 14:27
That is true. And by the way, it’s number four because we put number the last one in there but whatever you know, you’re getting it we have artists

Kevin Anthony 14:36
we live in then we went back to one

Céline Remy 14:37
Okay, that’s great. Well, here’s the thing we get a lot of we talk a lot about like testicle massage and including the balls and we get a lot of backlash on this on YouTube but people saying like are you crazy people like this is dangerous or don’t do that or that’s so painful.

Céline Remy 14:55
And there’s a few here and there like oh actually it felt good. You know, because a lot of guys I really afraid if you say testicles and touch in the same sentence and going, Oh my gosh, like squeeze oh my gosh, like this is too much.

Kevin Anthony 15:08
Yeah, there are a few things we need to clear up here, it is not dangerous in any way. Now granted, like, you know, if you grab a testicle and twist it, you know, that could be dangerous, right? You could cause a condition called torsion test testicular torsion. So yeah, obviously, you can hurt somebody, but you can hurt somebody giving them a hug or a handshake if you do it wrong and intentionally wrong, too, right? So no, there is nothing dangerous about including the testicle.

Kevin Anthony 15:36
So that’s the first thing. The second thing that comes up all the time, especially on YouTube, is people talking about how painful it is and how much it hurts. Let me say this, it should not be painful. If you have healthy testicles, this should not be an issue. Now granted, if she’s like, you know, grabbing it and yanking on it and squeezing it yet, obviously, that can be painful.

Kevin Anthony 16:01
But as long as she’s gentle, and using a good technique, it should not be painful. And now Celine, I know, actually, this is something kind of similar to like prostate massage that you’ve done with certain clients, right? where like, they’ve had surgery, or something like that, that does create a painful sensation, that through basically, it’s kind of like physical therapy, where you can eventually move past the pain.

Céline Remy 16:28
Absolutely. I had somebody you couldn’t touch his testicles, even looking at them was painful. And through doing scar tissue remediation and working on the penis and on the testicles. And he’s been able to integrate that part of his body and doesn’t flinch now actually enjoys having his testicles. massaged. Exactly, that was huge, you know?

Kevin Anthony 16:50
Yeah, I mean, imagine going, I mean, in his case, many, many years. I mean, most of his life, not being able to touch them, or have them be touched. Yeah, and to finally get some relief from that.

Céline Remy 17:02
Our next step for you is to add some lube at so that’s something that I see a lot like people just doing it dry. So far, so wrong.

Kevin Anthony 17:12
Why you know, I don’t have a problem with dry, I don’t require lube. But sometimes lube is nice, you know like these get a little coconut oil. And again, think of it literally like a massage. You know, if you’re going to massage your partner’s back and you do it dry, your hands really slide like it right. But then you get a little massage oil or coconut oil or whatever. And all of a sudden, everything just slow.

Céline Remy 17:37
Think about this, that when you give a handjob and use lube, it allows you to be softer and more gentle with your moves. When you give your man a hand job, you essentially retraining him and his sensitivity. And if you always give him like very rough touch, that means that when he’s having penetration sex, he’s going to require rough sensations in order to reach a place of climax or uracil.

Céline Remy 18:07
So if you want him to be gentle with you, when he is making love with you, you got to give him that as something that he needs to get used to as the level of touch and sensations that he can get.

Kevin Anthony 18:22
Yeah, so here’s a tip for you meant to we were saying you should stick with the show, even though you don’t necessarily get head jobs. But think about this when you masturbate, right. And we see this a lot with men that we work with. They masturbate, really, really rough. Like really rough. And it desensitizes their penis.

Kevin Anthony 18:42
And then when they want to have sex with a woman, they need to have rough sex, and then most of the time she’s not into rough sex, and when he’s not feeling satisfied. She’s not feeling satisfied, it creates all these problems. So

Céline Remy 18:55
let’s talk about our next step here, which is about slowing it down.

Kevin Anthony 19:00
Oh, yes, this is not a race to get him off. Especially if you want to have intercourse afterward. But yet slow it down. It’s not It’s not about this is why I keep saying like really think of it more as a massage. You know, especially if it’s going to be foreplay, you know. So just go a little slower, use some lube, incorporate all the different parts. That’s another tip there is to you know, there are different zones on a penis.

Céline Remy 19:30
Yeah, yeah, so there’s the bass that usually can take firmer pressure, the shaft, and the frenulum there’s the head that’s usually more sensitive. The side might be different, and everyone is a little bit different. And it’s important to just explore

Kevin Anthony 19:53
and don’t forget the internal penis either.

Céline Remy 19:57
So your penis is a lot longer than the part that sticks out. And you can stimulate it through the perineum, where when you press on the perineum that piece of skin in between the balls and the anus, you can feel the inner penis. And

Kevin Anthony 20:12
very clearly there’s like, oh, there’s a penis there like you can clearly see it extends all the way down through.

Céline Remy 20:17
Yeah, and when you press down on the penis to you can feel like this resistance as well, you know, and when you give a handjob it, like we said about integrating the balls, but it’s not the only part is you can, you can integrate other parts. So one of the things is to use both hands, you could use both hands on the penis, or you could use one hand on the penis, and with your other hand massage other body parts.

Céline Remy 20:46
Some things that feel amazing are to massage these fires while you stroke his penis, or move the energy towards his heart. Because as women we know about connecting our heart and sex, but for a lot of men, it’s something that we women in, like, teach them to access. And so you do that by stimulating his penis, massaging him, and then bringing this energy towards his heart to make him feel this energy and become more alive.

Kevin Anthony 21:14
Absolutely. Hey, let’s do our sponsor ad. And then we’ll finish up our list of do’s. Yeah,

Céline Remy 21:20
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Céline Remy 21:54
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Kevin Anthony 22:24
Okay, the next tip on the do’s list is to communicate. This is a tip on every list. Because communication is one of the important most important things that you can do. So yeah, absolutely communicate what feels good, what’s working, what doesn’t work. From the woman’s side, ask Hey, how does this feel? are you liking this? Would you like me to also do this right?

Kevin Anthony 22:46
Keep that communication open, as always, don’t communicate so much that it becomes clinical. Right? where it’s like, all we’re doing is talking here, you know, but definitely make sure that you communicate enough to make it a pleasurable experience for both of you.

Céline Remy 23:04
Well, I think that that’s the place where if you feel a little bit timid and shy or insecure or to be like, do you like this move? Would you like more pressure? How’s this one? You know, like, Okay, I’m going to try free different variations. Which one do you prefer? You know, like, things like that this type of communication goes a long way.

Céline Remy 23:21
And that will help you or you get asked him to tell you Okay when I do something that feels really awesome. Make a sound or let me know so that I’ll know. And then you put that in your back pocket like okay, this is my go-to move.

Kevin Anthony 23:35
Absolutely. Let’s see, we already covered the next one on the list. So we will skip down to number eight. Be gentle. It’s not a jackhammer. I don’t know that that needs much more explanation. But the reason why we had to put it on the list is this. If you watch women in porn movies, giving hand jobs, it’s literally a jackhammer. It’s like, Burr, right? No, just no.

Céline Remy 24:07
Think about edging him right and taking him for multiple waves. Remember how through a handjob, you can be training him to last longer in the bedroom to feel more. And the idea that you have to get to that destination as quickly as possible is not serving us not serving him.

Céline Remy 24:24
But edging of surfing the waves of pleasure, which is to bring him close and then back down we’ll start to teach him to have more sexual energy but also to start to build more energy to have a stronger orgasm when he finally has an orgasm and to start to last longer because we both know we all know that most men need to learn to last longer because they’re just not cutting it.

Kevin Anthony 24:47
Yeah, and this can be really fun for a woman when you’ve got the power in your hands literally. Right, You get to control what’s happening. You get to take him close and then back him down and take him clothes. And a lot of women actually really enjoy having that power and watching the man responds to that.

Kevin Anthony 25:06
But the other benefit of it really is you are literally physically training him. You are physically training him to be a better lover for you. Yeah, why wouldn’t you want to do that?

Céline Remy 25:18
Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. It’s a reframe of that handjob rather than being a chore, or something you do that you’re like half-hearted in it, and just thinking about, it has to lead somewhere else, this could be the main course, this could be just something beautiful, a moment to share something together. And I think it’s important to still keep that.

Céline Remy 25:43
And again, it doesn’t have to lead anywhere. You know, like, I think it’s important both for the women and the men listening, that understanding that a handjob in itself can be a whole thing, a whole meal, like it doesn’t mean that, Oh, you got it hard, and you’ve got to finish it, it doesn’t even mean you have to get to have an ejaculation. You know, it could just be like, I’m gonna give you a 20 or 30 minutes massage. And then it’s complete. Like, there’s no, you started it. Now you have to finish.

Kevin Anthony 26:11
Yeah, if you’re a man listening, and you’re thinking, Wait, what she’s going to do all of this, and then I’m not going to ejaculate. If that’s the mindset that you’re in, please go by sexual mastery at power mastery, calm, and learn how to be a better lover. Because when you’ve really mastered how to be what we call a sexual Master

Kevin Anthony 26:32
you won’t even have that thought anymore, you just won’t, because you’ll understand that there’s so much more. And you will, you will walk away from that experience, if done right, feeling perfectly complete, and not even needing to know sometimes you might want to but you won’t need to.

Céline Remy 26:49
But alas do is to focus and pay attention to his cues, because you will see to when he likes something, or something may not be ideal. And it’s important to have a kind of conversation, even though it’s not through words, but energetic and noticing your partner, like what’s the call response, if I do this, how he responds, and to adjust accordingly.

Céline Remy 27:14
Because again, this is remembering the course is touch of love, it’s learning to touch, and then and bring that element of love in what you do. And so if you love your partner, you want to do things that feel good for him.

Kevin Anthony 27:28
Absolutely. Okay, so that was quite the list of do’s.

Céline Remy 27:33
Yeah, our list of dances is a bit shorter, and we’re going to go faster through it because then we’ll have a few more interesting ways of giving hand jobs. So you want to stick through it to the end. All

Kevin Anthony 27:44
right, can’t wait for that. Okay, so the first one is don’t go too fast. So when our list of dues, we said slow down. So obviously, you know our list of don’ts is don’t go too fast.

Céline Remy 27:55
But especially when you start like you can always go faster. But like if you got too fast too quickly, then the end result is most likely you’re going to bring him or visit his edge.

Céline Remy 28:05
And it’s just not the goal of that. You know, you want to create a mind-blowing handjob it’s not going to happen in 30 seconds or three minutes a mind-blowing handjob is a bloater is a handjob where you take him on these waves of pleasure, you go close to his edge, you bring him down. He starts to like start to feel some orgasmic sensations. And he has no control over when if he even ejaculate. That’s what a mind-blowing? handjobs like,

Kevin Anthony 28:31
yeah, it’s really bad. How much energy you move, like 123 minutes five-minute hands, like, oh, that felt great, thanks. Right, but a mind blowing head job, you walk away going, whoa, I’m a little dizzy. And I’m super energized like my whole body is tingling. That was amazing.

Céline Remy 28:48
Second downs, do not pull too hard. While penises are very resilient, and some men will enjoy a good stretch. Again, it should be done very slowly. And with a lot of care and communication with your partner. So don’t just jerk on it or pull too hard. And if you’re going to stretch it to be something where he tells you when you reach that limit, and then some good breathing that’s integrated with that stretching as well.

Kevin Anthony 29:16
Yeah, absolutely. Don’t be like my friend who let some woman break his penis. Don’t be Don’t be that guy. Alright, number three on the list. Don’t assume what you think is good is actually good for him. So this comes down to the communication bit, right. So you might think I’ve got this amazing technique. It always works because it worked on all the other guys that I tried it on. You don’t know that maybe it’s just absolutely horrible for him.

Céline Remy 29:48
Tip number four, don’t wear him out if you want to have sexual intercourse afterward. So know that you know erections do have an expiration date. Sometimes and complexion come and go when if you wear him down too much if you plan on some more, just bring him enough that he’s really aroused. He’ll it really turned down but not spent.

Kevin Anthony 30:10
Yeah, I mean, basically, I mean, yeah, erections can come and go, and depending on the man that’s not always so much of an issue like the erection will still be there. But what you don’t want to do is go so long, that even if he doesn’t ejaculate, you bring him so close to his edge. He’s so high that as soon as he enters you is it’s like, oops, sorry, I didn’t mean that. Right. So don’t want to do that.

Céline Remy 30:38
Number five is don’t be demanding. And that’s more for him. So again, it’s about being greedy or demanding that if it’s if you started me, you have to finish me. Or it has to be this way or that way.

Kevin Anthony 30:50
Exactly. Or barking orders. Unless of course, she asks for it likes Linda the other day. She asked me to boss her around and tell her what to do.

Céline Remy 30:57
Yes, but it was consensual and we laid the foundation we we did one of the dues we communicated before

Kevin Anthony 31:04
that we did that we did. Alright, number six on the don’ts. Don’t overthink it. Don’t get so oh my god, I’m terrible at this. I don’t know what I’m doing on what’s going on. Just don’t overthink it. The reality is, is that unless you’re doing something that’s painful, guys are most likely like it. Maybe it’s not their ultimate like best hand job they’ve ever had. But if you’re touching their cock in a way that is not painful, they’re most likely liking it. So don’t overthink it too much.

Céline Remy 31:34
And don’t worry about how good you are or not good. Again, if you love what you do you do your best and practices what makes perfect. And if you’re not sure about the moves ago, and the purchase the touch of love, of course, because it will give you what do you need?

Kevin Anthony 31:50
All right, and you already covered that one. So you didn’t say number seven, we missed it.

Céline Remy 31:56
Let’s talk about our final thoughts here. As we getting towards the end of the show, I kind of saved this one for last because I really wanted to talk about this, when you think about handjobs of course a hand job, right. So it’s a job with your hands. That’s what you think. But it’s not the only way that you can give a hand job. Yes, you can do it with your hands, but you can use your feet, I have done this. And it is very fun.

Kevin Anthony 32:18
It is fun. Preferably with clean feet,

Céline Remy 32:21
feet and lube, you must, you must use oil or lube with the feet.

Kevin Anthony 32:26
It’s like one of those things you do when you’re fresh out of the shower.

Céline Remy 32:30
But you can also use your vagina to give well a hand job per se. And this requires you to be very familiar with your pelvic floor muscles and have dexterity and being able to squeeze his penis using the right or the left and up and down and literally creating like a hand job.

Céline Remy 32:52
And I think that Kevin should be the one talking about how it feels because I’m telling you what I’m doing. But he always knows when I’m doing it like his eyes go like ooh. So why don’t you tell our audience a bit more about the vaccine or hand job?

Kevin Anthony 33:06
Well, if a woman has strong muscles inside her vagina, there are different muscles in different places. And she can learn to squeeze them independently of each other. And therefore create all kinds of interesting sensations, it literally feels like you have a hand or you have different fingers. And when you move different fingers at different times, you can feel it in different places of your penis. It’s basically the same thing, only she’s doing it with her vagina.

Kevin Anthony 33:34
And if your woman can’t do that, if your muscles aren’t strong enough, if she doesn’t know how to do it, she’s never tried it before, then please, please, please have them work with Celine so that she can learn how to do this. It is absolutely a master skill for females. And it will take your lovemaking to the next level. It’s really, really amazing. I remember the very first time I made love to a woman. And I felt that I mean a bunch of girlfriends before that.

Kevin Anthony 34:04
And none of them I guess knew the secrets. They weren’t into, you know, esoteric sexual practices, you know, back in those days. And the first time I felt I was like, Whoa, I don’t even know you could do that. Right. And then, of course, you know, I’ve had several really amazing women who can really master that. And once you’re there, you’re like, I don’t ever want to have sex with a woman that can’t do that. Honestly,

Céline Remy 34:30
and anyone can do it. You know, even if you had children, it just you can really learn to use your pelvic floor muscles in a proper way. So if you don’t know yet, it’s an easy skill to learn. Yeah, that’s

Kevin Anthony 34:43
that’s a common complaint that we hear from women who’ve had children. Well, yeah, sure, of course, but you haven’t had children. It doesn’t matter. vaginas are amazing. Doesn’t matter how much they’ve stretched. Right? You can, it’s their muscles. They’re just like any other muscle in the body, if you work them out and you train them properly, they will get stronger.

Céline Remy 35:05
And let’s just talk about one last tool that you could use is like using a stroker tool like a flashlight. If your hands get tired, or you want to bring in some different sensations, there are some stroker things where it will do different sensations. And it’s like, it’s basically like a toilet paper roll made.

Kevin Anthony 35:24
But it’s a device specifically designed for male masturbation, this one’s called a fleshlight. So it’s kind of shaped like a flashlight, but you know, flashy, blah, blah, blah. Anyway, we’re not repping that particular product, but we have heard good things about it. And it’s just another way that that you could potentially do it. So a woman could use that on a man and a man could use it on himself,

Céline Remy 35:48
like masturbation, sleeves to just use that it’s just a different sensation. So you’re taking it to the next level. And if you want to think about elevating your blow job, hand job experience, and all of these things that you do in the bedroom, think ahead of what happens at the end.

Céline Remy 36:05
And my favorite is to prepare a warm washcloth, and to have that ready, especially if there’s going to be some ejaculation or if you use some oral, so you can like put this warm cloth on, it allows him to relax, you can, you know, wash him and clean him up in a very loving way. And that takes your handjob experience to the next level.

Kevin Anthony 36:27
That’s true. It really does. There are lots of things I mean, think about this as any other sexual experience that you’re going to have and make it special, you know, have the right environment, the right atmosphere, maybe there’s some soft music, maybe there’s lighting involved and make sure that it’s comfortable in temperature comfortable, where you’re laying down comfortable.

Kevin Anthony 36:45
What is the position that you’re in if you’re the one that’s going to be giving the handjob think of all of those things and then think about what’s the end going to be like with the washcloth and the experience and you know, cuddling whatever it is, like really make it a whole thing. Hmm.

Céline Remy 37:01
So there you have it, and you now have a lot of new ideas and tips. Again, it’s all about being creative and playful and just doing it.

Kevin Anthony 37:12
Absolutely. All right, everybody. That’s all the time we have for this episode and we will see you next week.

Kevin Anthony 37:25
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Céline Remy 37:33
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Kevin Anthony 37:47
Thanks for listening.

Céline Remy 37:48
And remember you are amazing