How To Create Personal And Collective Transformation With Sex

Kevin Anthony 0:05
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All right, welcome back to the Love Lab podcast. This is episode 276. It is titled How to Create Personal and Collective Transformation with Sex. This is going to be a really fascinating conversation. If you’re watching this on YouTube, you can already see I have a guest with me today who I will introduce in just a moment. But you know, if you’ve been listening to this podcast for a fairly good length of time, especially when Céline and I were doing it together, you would have heard at least a few times, that our goal through the work that we do was to create transformation and not just transformation in somebody’s sex life. That’s great. There’s nothing wrong with that, but transformation throughout their entire lives. And then that goes out into the collective as well. And so that’s always been a goal of the work that we have been doing. And that is also a goal with more for my guests. So I’m really actually excited to talk about this because it’s an angle that not that many people really talk about, you know, they’ll talk about fixing your sex life and having better sex and you know, having a better relationship. But they rarely talk about the real transformation that can occur through this work. My guest has actually quite the personal story of transformation as well. And so that’s going to be really fascinating to talk about.

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Okay, so today’s guest is Yuval Mann. And he is an ex-Orthodox Jew turned erotic intelligence mentor. He dances, travels, writes, and shows people how to use their sex to transform their lives. Okay, first of all, please let me know if I pronounced your name correctly because I forgot to ask you about that before we started this show.

Yuval Mann 3:26
Yes, it’s Yuval. And I’m happy to be here. Thank you for having me on the show.

Kevin Anthony 3:30
Well, thanks for being here. You have a very interesting story. So you have all right, I kind of preface this by mentioning that you were in the Orthodox Jewish faith. But before that, your family was not Orthodox Jewish. And so I was wondering if you could just talk a little bit about your childhood and sort of the journey that your parents went through and that kind of leads into your journey from there.

Yuval Mann 4:02
Yeah, I grew up in Israel. I imagined that always but especially these days that carries a certain weight. Just as a side note, I’m about to issue an essay talking about my experience growing up in Israel watching the happenings through being in the IDF for quite some time, and all this kind of stuff. And yeah, just something that I want to put out there. I grew up in Israel, and my mom came from a very orthodox family. My father came from a very leftist kind of almost communist family. My father’s grandfather was actually excelled, exiled, sorry from Israel by the British because he was too communist. Just funny side notes of roots. I grew up in a family that was very secular. My parents were kind of psychedelic parents doing pranayama in the morning meditation, that kind of stuff. And somewhere around the time I was 10, we all started going in the direction of more kind of reconnecting with our Jewish roots, which was a slow process, but pretty consistent and eventually led up to us becoming fully orthodox joining like my parents sent me to boys, only Haredi Jewish institutes of Ashkenazi Jews in different places around Israel, and I spend my years from 10 to about 1718 in such Institute’s, after that, I went to the army, which is mandatory in Israel. And, unfortunately, then, after that kind of slowly started the process of leaving the faith, or at least the Orthodox parts of the faith.

Kevin Anthony 6:07
Yeah. Okay, great. That’s fantastic. And I wanted people to hear that because a lot of times when we think about, you know, people making big transitions, what we often hear about is, they were in a more traditional religion, regardless of which one it was. And then they often kind of move away from that and go towards, you know, more of the New Age spirituality. And what I think is very interesting about your story is that your parents started off more in that, you know, what we sort of called New Age, spirituality, you know, doing pranayama in the morning and being a bit more on the hippie psychedelic side, but then transitioned over to a more traditional religion, but then that’s not the end of the story, because then you made the transition from there as well. Before we get to your transition, though, I’m curious if you could describe how so because you transitioned about when you were 10 years old. So at 10, you’re not quite in your sexuality yet. But it’s, it seems like those formative years where you are starting to come into your sexuality, you’re going through puberty, you’re learning about sex work, during the time that you were very deeply involved in the Orthodox Jewish religion. So I’m wondering how that affected your sexuality as you were growing up.

Yuval Mann 7:30
Yeah, in many ways, I think maybe a good place to start is telling you one anecdote from when I was going through puberty, and that I think can kind of encapsulate what it’s like, sexuality-wise, growing up in such Orthodox communities. So first of all, as I mentioned, it’s boys only. So basically, since I left, I grew up in Waldorf School, which is like a democratic school up to the age of 10. So it’s not just a regular school, it’s like the most secular that you can imagine. It’s basically a school where you don’t have teachers, you, every student chooses their curriculum. And I was spending my time painting reading books in the library and spending time with older kids are doing all kinds of pottery, carpentry, and all kinds of stuff. Then I had girlfriends. But then it was cut pretty dramatically when I was moved from the super liberal kind of existence to boys only, only studying the Bible all day, every day. And there is no discussion about anything other than the faith.

As you can imagine, probably some of the listeners are from other types of conservative backgrounds. So when I was about maybe 13, 14, 15, going through puberty, obviously, the hormones were going wild. And there is absolutely no background, no context, no resources. And I think this is something a lot of people can resonate with whether they are from a conservative background or not, there is just not enough good sex education out there to go around. But at least people go out there and have experiences so they meet people their age, they have the experience of coming out as a sexual being and finding this discovering this attraction to the other sex and feeling whatever the feelings that come. I had none of that. Naturally, as it goes with the human body if you don’t masturbate, which was something that was highly forbidden. And I don’t even think that I knew what it was. I don’t even I don’t think that I even know that it’s possible, right? And if you don’t do that, it comes out naturally. When you dream, whatever dreams it comes down, out in the night, and so on and so forth.

And I remember quite a few times that have happened to me, I would wake up from erotic dreams. And just the moment before waking up, I had this orgasmic experience really, that I was waking up in an orgasmic experience and obviously, wetting my bed and feeling I remember distinctly, I don’t remember a lot of things from that period. But I remember this very vividly, I remember how guilty and how fearful, I felt. First of all, I didn’t know what was going on and what’s wrong with me, second of all, something felt wrong, like I did something wrong, like what God would have done to me, and so on and so forth. And I would run to the mikvah, which is a Jewish bathhouse where you go to purify yourself in to go there and take a bath, and just pray for forgiveness. So kind of like to gives you an idea of what kind of sexuality I was faced with growing up in the formative years.

Kevin Anthony 11:04
Yeah, so basically, no sex education and a ton of guilt for experiencing things that were actually just natural, normal parts of going through puberty and becoming a man. So yeah, that’s, that’s very interesting. So let’s kind of take it to the next step, then. So that’s where you were when you were younger? How long did you stay in this faith? And, you know, because, alright, so puberty time, you know, 13, 14, 15, 16 years old? Okay, but what about, you know, 17, 18, 19? Those years where you should be dating and exploring and, you know, learning more about sex and all that, what were those years like?

Yuval Mann 11:49
So there was none of that. And around the age of 1617, I think I kind of had some kind of a break with the kind of extreme orthodox yeshiva, which is kind of like a high school institute that I was in. And I decided in the spur of the moment to grab my bag, and hitchhiked to the north of Israel, I didn’t really have a plan, but I was kind of like, I don’t want to be here, let’s see well, where the road will take me something that became a theme in my life in general. And I arrived at Tzfat, which is an old city, very kind of esoteric, mystical city, almost the hills in the north of Israel. And I was walking around there. Suddenly I heard singing, a very beautiful singing and it really touched my heart I entered this place and I saw that there was another yeshiva but not really as Orthodox as the kind of stuff that I was in so this is the kind of people in Israel that are more that go to the army and kind of like have like some nationality and kind of pride and things of that nature. And still pretty religious. Still, boys only.

And so this is where I started the despair of like, the indecision of a moment like this isn’t where I want to be like, they were more acidic, more kind of like mystical. And I was like, I want to be in a place that people are singing and like, connecting with God and spirituality from like a place of love and celebration, not from a place of suppression and kind of like strictness, which which is what I felt until them I spent there another a year, a year and a half before I went to the army, and when I was there, so this is like 1718 There was the equivalent of the kind of issue but I was in but for girls, and sometimes we will see them like passed by our will rooms where and I remember just looking kind of like feeling aroused, but feeling also very kind of like guilty about it. Again, this is something that is very basically the path is like you finish a Shiva you go on like one or two dates. Oftentimes those dates are kind of organized by mutual friends that are already married or by your rabbis. And then you go on a few dates, you decide if you’re going to get married, and you’re not having sex before marriage, so kind of strict and never had any of these interactions with any girls and I went to the army, still a virgin, and I was there from the age of nine Dec 818 and a half to almost 22. And my first girlfriend I met her when I was in an outpost in the West Bank, and she was also living in one of the villages there and we met while I was serving them and that was the first time that I had sex with anybody. And that was when I was 21.

Kevin Anthony 15:05
All right, so we have a pretty good idea of your background up to this point. And you know, the topic of this episode is really creating transformation. So I really wanted to give the audience a background so that they could understand the magnitude of the transformation that has occurred here. So now that we are at that point, you have sex for the first time. What did that do for you did it? Did it suddenly open up? You know, a huge door to a whole nother world? Or was it just kind of like, I don’t know, is it more of a slow transformation? Or did it just blow the doors open? What effect did it have? And then follow up that with? How did this sort of spark you on this path that you’re now on?

Yuval Mann 15:56
So it absolutely blew my mind. I think that both of us were each other’s first. And somehow, I feel like a lot of people have pretty questionable if not bad, kind of first sexual experiences. Ranging from really bad to like, just awkward and strange. I feel very lucky. For both of us, it was incredibly monumental, both of us somehow very, very hungry for it very lustful, for it also kind of just brought all of the suppression and the years of wholeness and kind of like desire into each other. And we will naturally be very exploitive, very kinky, very, like, we didn’t know anything about like sexuality, sexual literature, sexual health, like anything, spatially not about kings. But somehow we were like, very, very kind of intuitive about it. And it was phenomenal, we couldn’t get ourselves off of each other. So that was a very, very good start. And I remember those first few times, I was like, Whoa, this is such a powerful, almost spiritual experience. I love it, I want more of it. And I want to deepen my understanding of it. And that was, I think, really the start, in some ways of a very long journey of exploration of human sexuality.

Kevin Anthony 17:25
Okay, so you are right, that you are, you are lucky that your first experience turned out to be really a wonderful magical one because a lot of people do have not such good first-time stories. But one of the things that I think is quite a bit different in your story is, and this might have to do with, you know, the repression of sexuality throughout your, you know, early formative years. But a lot of people, like let’s just say, here in the US, a lot of people have sex, when they’re younger, you know, maybe 15 1617 ish, they start becoming sexual. And while they are interested in that, and that is something that is kind of a new world for them, it doesn’t always have that, like, wow, blow the doors open, holy cow, this is so different. And in your case, that’s what happened, like this was just totally life-changing for you in that moment and set you on a different path. So I think that’s pretty amazing. And I think that that’s the power that sexuality and sexual energy can have. Now, what’s interesting is then how do you choose to channel that energy? Right? So here you are. Now you’ve had this experience, it blows the doors open? And you’re like, wow, I want to learn more about this. At what point so, like, Where does the path go from there? Because you mentioned a few things like you didn’t know anything about kink. Right. And so obviously, I know a little bit about you. And I know that kink is a part of, you know, where you’ve been? Like, how does that how does that path go? So doors are blown open. You’re interested in exploring more like, I want to know more of what’s happening here. What happens next?

Yuval Mann 19:22
So it took a long time, relatively speaking until I actually started teaching anything at all. I was in the army for a little bit longer, and we eventually broke up for many different reasons. I finally finished my three obligatory years in the Israeli army and I felt generally really viscerally choked by the culture in Israel by the actions and continuous violence that the State of Israel is inciting against its neighbors and against its own Palestinian citizens and beings. And after serving in the army and in the West Bank and seeing things firsthand and being exposed to a lot of violence, like I had these, like really a lot of continuous epiphanies of what the story that I was sold and what was actually going on. And this collective intensity and trauma combined with the kind of suppression that I personally experienced in my own life in this very close-knit community of religious extremism, I felt really shocked.

And I had to, I had to go, you know, and also, I don’t know, anybody who’s listening has been in the military, and not paid for it, like rather like obligatory military, you’re basically counting the days. And it’s three long years, probably the longest years of my entire life, I was suffering physically and mentally, I was really suffering, I entered the army, a pacifist. And so you can imagine how your commanders really don’t like that kind of mentality, I was always kind of like a rebel, trying to do the minimum that I could, questioning everything. So I did a lot of kitchen kind of work and a lot of really a lot of suffering, basically. And so when I finally finally was done, I remember feeling such tremendous liberation. They cut my army ID and literally, I went out I smoked a massive spliff in the sun, I felt so liberated and so free and I was on the spot, like used my phone and bought my first plane ticket outside of Israel, mind, you have never been outside of Israel before that. Went on my first trip and came back only after like two and a half years of roaming around doing a bunch of wild stuff, seeing Europe living in a cave in the Canary Islands for quite some time. Finally getting some experiences, having relationships getting out of relationships.

And I think that was kind of like the first poll that I was like, okay, my life is I want to travel the world, I want to try everything out. I want to go to music festivals, I want to try psychedelics different spiritual modalities, and I want to explore human sexuality in all of its flavors. And that’s going to be my life for now. And so the following probe pretty much a decade, I did just that. On the sexuality aspects, it was a combination of just simply everywhere that I went, I was kind of like deliberately exploring the sex-positive, seeing the kinks in the Fetish thing, going to sex clubs, and later on facilitating some events of myself. And I read a lot of literature, too. I explored, just direct experiences myself with relational dynamics of all kinds. And in some different parts of my life. I had different mentors and teachers, especially when I got into Japanese erotic bondage. And, yeah, that was kind of like the decade that came around traveling psychedelics and sexual exploration.

Kevin Anthony 23:15
Yeah. All right. So you’ve had all these experiences, you spend a decade trying out all of these things, obviously, this had a big impact on your sexuality. But I’m also curious, what impact did it have on you as a person? Right, because we’re talking about using, you know, sex as a way of creating transformation. After that 10 years of, you know, traveling and experiencing and trying all these different things? How would you compare who you were after those 10 years to who you were prior to those 10 years?

Yuval Mann 23:54
I mean, if I was always the same person at the core, it’s just the perspectives, the wisdom, the amount of experience that is changing, like I’m looking back at every part of my life that I can remember. And I feel like at the core, I was the same person with the same kind of mannerisms and likes and dislikes and kind of qualities. And I feel like over the years, what is changing is not who I am, or the core but rather like really my perspectives, my views, the kind of the way that I carry myself through life, the physical and emotional and spiritual posture that I get, and I think those this decade has really changed me on those levels in all kinds of ways.

Kevin Anthony 24:44
I think that’s an interesting distinction that you made about the sort of core of who you are has always been the same. And I think that’s true for most of us. You know, our core of who we really are stays the same. There are so many influences in society that can take us on different paths, where maybe we aren’t as true to our core as we should be. And sometimes it takes exploration and travel and exploring sexuality to come back to, you know, who we really are at our core. So I think that’s, that’s, that’s just a fascinating and amazing story. So now that we know, your background and how you came to where you are, what I really want to get into next is, you know, how we like your teaching sexuality, I want to know what types of things you teaching people, and what kind of impact is that having? How is that helping them create personal transformation? So I have a bunch of questions around that topic.

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Okay. So that was obviously an ad for some of the work that I do. But I want to know a little bit more about the work that you are currently doing. So maybe we could start out by just explaining to the audience, what is it that you are currently doing in your work?

Yuval Mann 27:24
I feel like the attitude of what it is that I’m actually doing is something that is constantly in flux. I always saw myself and still see myself as an artist more than anything else. I feel like when different artists have different inclinations, some people devote their entire life to perfecting music or to exploring and working with different materials. For me, it’s their robotics. Its sexuality, sexual energy, sensuality, pleasure. There are particular things that are most alive in me which I tend to share on my platforms and work with people around me, through my work, and my programs are really changing all the time. I feel like at the moment, I’m really really deeply kind of excited to and this is really my leading experience. What is really the most kind of burning in me to shell is the exploration of how everything is inherently interconnected through the lens of the erotics. So really looking at reality at our place in the world, at the way that we experience what it is to be human and to be the universe experiencing itself through a lens of a more ecological perspective that sees the person their range of experiences, their emotions and feelings, their place in society, and then also their collective kind of movements, as a biodiversity in an ecology of aliveness.

And I like to call it erotic aliveness. And there is a wonderful work by Andreas Webber who is a philosopher who lives here in Berlin, wrote a book called Matter and Desire, he speaks beautifully in those kinds of terms. And erotic ecology is basically this notion that reality is not, no matter how deep you look at any direction or any particular thing, nothing has a center in which it’s separated from everything else. Everything is inherently connected, and it’s a biodiversity that is of mutually transformative relationships. The erotics come in the sense that everything is constantly longing to vulnerably connect with other elements in order to produce new life whether you’re looking at The microbial perspective on the physics and particle perspective on the human level perspective on any perspective you can think about. Everything is always longing. So an ecology of erotic aliveness. And I feel like in my work, I’m really enjoying kind of traveling the space between talking about these kinds of rather poetic notions. And also bringing it down to very practical ways of how these perspectives influence the way that we see ourselves the way that we experience ourselves in relationships, the way that we carry ourselves in our work the way that we fuck, and so on and so forth, the way that we live our life. And this is really where the center of my work is right now I feel the art in that is really how to translate these palpable direct experiences that I’m having in the web of erotic aliveness into actionable practical stuff that can really be useful for people in their life. And in the problems they come to me with which a lot of times it’s relational sexual intimacy and challenges of all kinds.

Kevin Anthony 31:12
So I’m wondering, could you give maybe an example of, you know, like, what are those issues that a client would come to you with, and how you do what you do to help them with that challenge.

Yuval Mann 31:27
So for example, let’s focus on men for a moment, I noticed that in your ad, that you’re also focusing on a lot of men. So let’s speak to probably a lot of the people who are listening. Men experience premature ejaculation as it’s called, I don’t like this particular kind of clinical kind of title. But, you know, anyway, coming before you want to come, right, a lot of men face that kind of challenge. They go around the internet, and they can find all kinds of information about semen retention, and no fap and Kegel exercises and none on the worst side is like numbing creams and thinking about your dead grandma in order to avoid your ejaculation. For me, before we even get into a deeper understanding of the nervous system, parasympathetic, and sympathetic, how they are connected to each circulation. Before we even get to one of that, and breathing and like softening the muscles, and all kinds of stuff that we definitely get to, for me a lot more important, and in my experience, working with a lot of men that eventually gain gained full ejaculation control a lot more potent, is to first start by exploring what is sex for you? How are you experiencing yourself in the world, like what are you? Who are you, you know, and starting from there. And I feel like this kind of identity expansion is really affecting the way that they start caring in themselves sexually, suddenly, it’s less about trying to perform from somebody which is well, they kind of clinical name premature ejaculation as if it’s some kind of a clinical clinical issue come from. And they start experiencing themselves as this beautiful, playful expression of aliveness that evolution processes unfolding.

So they start realizing that the reason why their premature ejaculation isn’t by no fault of their own. It’s mostly because there is a 50,000 or 100,000 years of evolutionary process that optimizes for men who ejaculated as quickly as possible for the father of the species, you know, they start realizing that the connection between their activation of the sympathetic nervous system which is in charge on stress, and creates tension in the body and therefore creates the ejaculatory response. So what happens when they cannot relax into the moment they soften their muscles, the soften their pelvis, which is the reason why I’m so much a big critic for all the pelvic contraction stuff, all the regular Kegel exercises because what you need is really to soften everything. And then what happens when you start receiving your partner in that softness when you start becoming more connected with your pleasure, not it’s just a way to get to some kind of goal of ejaculatory in something, but rather like a full body experience of pleasure, that is healing that is like a prayer that is like a way to connect with the ecology that you emerged from. So a lot of these themes I feel, serving great ways to expand their sense of identity, how they experience and therefore how they carry themselves sexually, which in my experience is a lot more effective sometimes from any kind of exercise or technique that you can do it And once that is being expanded, then we can get into breathing. And we can get into more practical stuff that someone can do just one anecdote, one kind of idea that I can give you of what I mean by this. Opening up to the erotic aliveness, the ecology of vertical liveness.

Kevin Anthony 35:16
Yeah, and I love it. So what you’re doing is you’re not just addressing, oh, here’s an exercise, here’s a pill, here’s the cream, here’s, like, so many people out there do. And you’re actually taking into account the entire person, and basically changing them as a person in order for them to meet their goals. And that’s really, that’s, that’s where the work is. And, you know, anytime I have a strategy call with a new potential client, you know, I have to be 100% honest with them and say, Look, this is life-changing, transformative work, and it’s, it’s going to challenge you, if you’re here for a quick fix, you’re not in the right place, right? Because there really are no quick fixes. We need to address the person as a whole. And that really is what I hear that you know, you can correct me if I’m wrong, but that’s what I hear when you’re talking about addressing who they are as a whole, starting right in the beginning, like, What does sex mean for you? How do you experience sex rather than just going, okay? Do these exercises over here, and it’ll all be fixed, right?

Yuval Mann 36:21
Yes, and exploring who they are as a whole, but exploring who they are as something without a center that is intimately connected to everything around them. So if I give them breathing exercises, we’re not just giving a breathing exercise, we are talking about the breath, how the breath is the first and the last thing that we do in this life. How we breathe in aliveness, we breathe out like softness, how the breath is the most immediate bridge that you can connect with to the ecology that you emerge from, because everything births, right? And if we talk about premature ejaculation, we talk about sex, let’s say. So we talk about what is sex, right? Like sex is not just something that you do, it’s what you are, right? Like sex is the very act, the dance of evolutionary unfolding, that everything became through, right? This is what aliveness is. And so we’re kind of like using their momentary human experiences, their unique kind of challenges and issues and points of tension and kinks to explore their place in the cosmos, their place in the biodiversity of reality. And it’s not just with virtual connection, it’s with everything.

Kevin Anthony 37:42
Yeah, that’s, I love the way you said that which is sex isn’t just something that you do, it’s who you are. And that’s absolutely right. It’s who we are, it’s a fundamental piece of who we are. And I like also, you know, sort of bringing it out to the whole, you know, the way I often describe it to people, which is maybe a little bit less mystical and a little bit more practical. Not that one is any better than the other. But you know, I often just tell people to look, if you are, you know, suffering from, you know, any sort of sexual dysfunction, or you’re in an unhealthy relationship, that’s not working for you, the negative energy produced there is going to affect things outside of your life. So you’ll start to see that when your relationship isn’t working at home, you start having relationship troubles outside of the home, because you’re angry about whatever’s happening at home, you go to work, and you start, you know, snapping at your co-workers as well. So this idea that when we address these things, and you use the example of premature ejaculation, yes, you are addressing them for yourself, but you are potentially also affecting the whole as you transform.

Personally, I love talking about geopolitics. This is not the show for that. So when you started to bring in a little bit about what’s happening, I’m personally very curious about it. But I know that that’s not why the listeners are tuning into this episode. But, you know, like, when people are upset about what’s happening in the world, Now, granted, there are things that need to be done. But one of the things that I always tell them is, the transformation starts from within. The reason why we have so many problems in the world is that people on an individual level haven’t done their inner work, and if they had done that inner work, right, so just to take the example of, you know, say being in the military, if everybody was that was in the military had done their personal work, would they all be in the military doing what they’re told? Probably not right? So that’s how the individual transformation can affect the transfer can transform the greater consciousness of the world and so, I love that that is one of the things that you are trying to accomplish through your work. That’s one of the reasons why I wanted to have you on the show was because it’s something that’s sort of near and dear to me, which is that we need to do our personal inner work. And then we need to take that work and help transform the greater consciousness with it. And I think that’s very similar to what you do, although I’m guessing we probably accomplish that in different ways. And there are many different ways to do it. But I just, that’s the message that I really wanted to bring to people.

Yuval Mann 40:31
I love that you brought the geopolitical part in again because everything is connected, right? Like when I’m talking about love and sexuality, I’m also talking about decolonizing our hearts decolonizing our sex decolonizing you know, love in so many ways, you know, we none of us got the sex education that we needed in Africa thing has roots in the way in which, you know, our sex is deeply colonized and influenced by religious dogma by you know, years of erosion of a lot of rich cultures of human, of human cultural human experience, indigenous nations. And so when we are talking about these things, we were talking about the same stuff, right? I feel like when I’m working with people around their sexuality in using their sex to expand their identity, to stop receiving themselves as individual Center as part of a family, or, or tribe, or nationality, but rather as an aspect of the human vibration and aspect of a human collective, and then also an aspect of the whole, alive Cosmos, a whole ecosystem of aliveness. And I think that expansion of identity is at the very core of every activism that has been done also on the geopolitical and kind of sphere.

Kevin Anthony 41:56
Can you imagine what kind of a world we would live in if everybody saw it from that perspective? Rather than like you said, that I’m in this group, you’re in that group? Imagine if everybody, no, there’s nothing wrong with group identities, as long as you understand that there’s a larger group, which could be the whole world could be the whole cosmos, as you said.

Yuval Mann 42:18
Yeah, I can definitely imagine that.

Kevin Anthony 42:23
Good. Let’s all keep imagining that maybe someday we’ll actually live in it. Yeah. All right. So we’re getting somewhat close to the end of the show. I’m curious. So this is the work that you’re doing. Obviously, you’re here because you want to be able to share that work with people. So if you could, in the last few minutes that we have on the show, what is the main message or the last thing that you really want the listeners to know about you in the work that you’re doing?

Yuval Mann 43:04
What is coming for me intuitively, is that there is really nothing special about me. And I really think that nobody should believe what I’m saying and taking it at face value. I feel like my entire work my entire perspective is exploring things from a fresh you in a fresh, unique language that anybody can relate to through their own direct, self-evident experience. Whether it’s the advice that I’m giving about certain sexual topics or stuff that I’m talking about decolonization and geopolitics, or any kind of perspective, philosophical or poetic, or esoteric perspective that I’m bringing anything of that sort when I’m talking about sexuality, relationships, and any of these topics, I’m always trying to find continuously trying to find you fresh language that is not convoluted by existing kind of perspectives, and beliefs and values.

And something that anybody can relate to which I feel like it’s something that is really missing, you go to explore right now, how to improve your sexuality and relationships there is either like the very clinical therapy talk and perspective of advice, talking about attachment styles and trauma and, you know, feminine, masculine polarity on the more spiritual side. And then on the other side of it, you have really the more like kind of new age and perspective, again, like feminine masculine energies and like all kinds of stuff that is, again, not very resonance for a lot of people for good reason. I’m trying to put my stuff in some kind of an artistic middle in which I think a lot about what I’m saying and make sure that it’s sound Just from a scientific perspective from you know what we know about the world so far in terms of research and sound mind. And at the same time that I am open to the mystery open to the poetic open to the erotic because I feel like really this is where the magic is. The magic is in the poetic and the erotic. erotics is not sex. It’s not the act of penetration orgasm. erotica is the poetic kind of in-between of all of it, it’s the tension. It’s the mystery, mystery unfolding. It’s really the songs and the dance that are being created by our connection to our physical, emotional, and spiritual interaction with each other.

And so it’s important to me to speak about these things in a fresh language in language that anybody can resonate with, and really take whatever experiences people bring to me whatever questions they have, as analogies to kind of bring light to the stuff that I’m experiencing in my heart very strongly. So yeah. Right now I am. I’m always doing one-on-one work with people, men and women have video courses. But something that I’m really, really excited about is the kind of work with couples that I’m starting to kind of go more deep into, I have a program for couples coming up. And this is kind of like the direction that I’m taking. helping couples bring this sense of how to create, create a mutually empowering relationship that both provides love connection and safety and closeness. And at the same time, keep the spark the erotism, the newness and the vanity, and the freshness, alive, exploring that through movement through kind of more poetic perspectives, through all kinds of power dynamics and kinky exercises with each other as well. Yeah, so that’s all very, very exciting right now.

Kevin Anthony 47:04
All right, well, if people are interested in that, where can they find out more about you and your work?

Yuval Mann 47:11
So most of my stuff that is already established is on my websites, the couple stuff. You are probably better to go to any of my social media. TikTok is the best, the most active there. And then you can see it in, you can apply to it in my link tree and all this kind of stuff. But my website is the main place.

Kevin Anthony 47:31
So of course, those links will be in the description. But for people who are listening on the podcast, make sure that you tell them exactly what your website is, and maybe what your social media is that they can get there without having to go back to the show notes.

Speaker 2 47:47
Sure, it’s simply yuvalman.com.

Kevin Anthony 47:51
Easy enough, the link is in the description. But yeah, just know that it’s yuvalman.com. And you can find pretty much everything from that one place, right?

Yuval Mann 48:04
Yeah, I would just say that if someone from the listeners is in a committed relationship, and they kind of feel that the sex became boring, and they want to bring the spark back alive. And they’re interested in doing so in a very experimental and fresh environment with a group of couples from all around the world. And then the best is to really either write me an email, and DM me on social media and inquire into that, and then I’ll send them letters because it’s something that is still fresh, and it’s not on my website.

Kevin Anthony 48:32
Got it. All right. Well, hey, thank you for coming on the show. You’ve all thanks for sharing your personal story. It is definitely a story of transformation. You’ve you’ve I think you’ve lived a couple of lifetimes in this one. Knowing the places that you’ve been and how different they are, most people don’t get an opportunity to have that many very different experiences in their lives. I’m glad that you are taking all of that and choosing to use that experience to help the world. And I hope that listeners got something from this episode. And if nothing else, you understood that you can use your sexuality and your relationships as a way not only to create personal transformation, but to create transformation in the world as well. So I hope that that message landed with people who are listening. Again, go check out Yuval at UVA and.com If you are interested in working with him. And that’s all that I have for this episode. So I will see you all next week.

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